Today is National Stress Awareness Day and as many of you will know one of the most stressful things in life is having a baby, a report released by Kalms, the number one selling range of herbal stress remedies, identifies exactly what it is that stresses us out about having a baby.
For 48% of parents to be, lack of sleep is the biggest worry while 42% experience nervousness about being a good parent and 40% have doubts over being able to afford everything a baby needs.
Body changes (39%) and pain of birth (44%) are key areas of concern for women, whilst almost a quarter (24%) of men’s concerns centre around changing lifestyles and 38% worry about not getting enough sleep to function at work.
Significantly more women than men worry about whether they will be a good parent (46% v 33%) while 40% of those surveyed revealed that finances was a significant stress factor.
For over a third (37%) of 35-44 year olds, having a baby is considered the most stressful life event, perhaps reflecting the current trend in becoming parents for the first time aged over 35. For those under 35, finance is the cause of most stress, with concerns about the cost of having a baby revealed as the biggest worry for younger parents.
Sophia Davis, one of the UK’s leading transformational life coaches, said: “Having a baby is a total life-change and for most people it evokes a massive amount of fear within them.
“The level of fear revealed in the stats from the Kalms Annual Stress Report comes from knowing that we don't know what it's going to be like, and can therefore not be in control. It is in this uncertainty that real personal growth can happen, and babies/children can be our greatest teachers if we allow them to be.
Sophia’s tips for parents to avoid or deal with stress:
1. Get comfortable with unknown territory to help keep calm in these situations.
2. Employ practical solutions like keeping a tight schedule for feeding, bottle cleaning and chores to allow more time for sleep, and learn a simple meditation technique which can offer you the same benefits of a full night sleep in only 20-30 minutes of practice.
3. Make a conscious decision about the kind of parent you want to be to help you to make the process of parenting more relaxed and rewarding.
4. Get back into shape, which is doable if you nourish your body with healthy foods, allow yourself some ‘you’ time, and incorporate your exercise routine with your baby's schedule.
5. Remember that your baby feeds off of your energy, so a calm parent will help to ensure a calm baby. A good friend, coach or counsellor can help you to regain perspective and herbal remedies can also help during times of stress.
I think for me personally the biggest thing that stresses me out at the moment is not having enough time and feeling like I'm being pulled in a million different directions. There just is not enough time in the day for me to get everything I want to achieve done, I'm trying to be a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, a cleaner, a beauty therapist and a blogger all at once and it's not always possible. I feel like I'm doing everything badly because I don't have enough time to dedicate to any one thing.
The way I try to cope with this is by writing everything down, I make lists of everything I need to get done in a day and then tick things off as I go along and I find this really helps me to achieve things and feel good about what I've managed to do that day.
If you're feeling stressed then it might help to try some Kalms Day Tablets for the temporary relief of stress and irritability.