Hi everyone! I am Jenny from Let’s Talk Mommy I have been invited by the lovely Emma here to write a guest post for you which I am ever so grateful for. I had a few topics in mind to share with you but I decided on this one because I think for many of us we stay in our comfort zone and never take good risks in life, worried about the unknown. But those good risks in life just might make all your dreams come true. Cliche, yes but true.
If I have learned anything in life, it’s that taking good risks is the only way to go for me. If you have a dream job, want to live abroad, start your own business or even if it’s something unexpected that creeps up, it’s ok to take good risks, you might just surprise yourself. I say good risks because there are bad risks too that can do the complete opposite and you can lose everything. I am cautious about bad risks but today I will focus on the good risks in life. For me, taking good risks changed my life completely and for the better.
I am from a very small country town in the middle of nowhere on the west coast of America. Most people from there never leave. They build their lives and have kids right where they were once kids. There is nothing wrong with that but for me, I always knew I was going to move away. I was about eight years old when I watched one of my older sister’s friends marrying her high school sweetheart. Amazing for them but I knew that day I wouldn’t stay in my town.
One of the first risks I took was moving to the big city of Seattle as soon as I graduated high school by myself. It’s about eight hour drive from where I grew up and in another state. I couldn’t wait for a great adventure and to see more of the world other than farmlands and woodlands I was used to.
I was scared at first but the excitement of the unknown kept me going. I enrolled in a great university and quickly made some great friends that I am still really close with today. They showed me the best places to eat, hang out, meet people, shop and even live. Because I went out of the comfort zone I got to experience so much more than I would have if I had just stayed where I grew up. I loved my new found freedom and going to college. Yes, it got lonely during the holidays if I couldn’t afford to go back home or on birthdays but “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger”. I think this quote is so true in so many ways. Taking good risks gives you more options in life and one of those just might change your life forever.
Breaking out of my comfort zone and moving to the big city taught me many things. I had responsibilities, a good job, my own house, and was living a life so different than I was use to back home. I loved it. City life was definitely different than country life. Everything was at a faster pace and easier to get to. I met my best friend who I have had many fun memories over the years with. We decided after graduating that we would take a trip to Mexico where I then met my gorgeous british husband.
Stepping out onto the sand in my flip flops with the sun beating on my back, I was on another adventure. I didn’t have a care in the world but only to see the world itself. I had been living in a small town way too long sheltered from the beauties of the world. Mexico was the first trip I ever took with a friend and the first beach vacation I ever had. It was beautiful. She had never left her hometown for so much as camping trip so I told her I was going to take her on a great adventure. If I had only known that I was about to take myself on one as well, one a lot further than Mexico and a lot longer than a vacation. She decided I was right, stepping out of her comfort zone was long overdue. I pushed her to take baby steps to see another part of the world and now she travels all over it.
Our Mexico trip was lovely, with shopping, and sun tanning on the waterfront. Enjoying our relaxing time after our college finals in our hotel’s swim up bars and dancing the nights away. We were young and happy. What I didn’t expect was to run into an Englishman that would pull the rug out from underneath my feet. I thought I had it all figured out, now that I was a college graduate with a bachelor’s degree. Where I was going next and what I wanted to do, it was organized and waiting for me upon my return. But after a few days inseparable with this man, I knew those plans were never going to be. My best friend knew something had changed and I was about to take another risk in life and move across the ocean! She was sad but happy for me that I had fallen in love in such a short period of time. She knew me enough to know I didn’t believe in true love or sappy soul mate clichés so when I told her I was moving to England to be with this man because my gut, my heart, and my head all screamed don’t ever let him go, she knew it was real and right for me.
It was the scariest risk I had taken thus far. So many family and friends let their worries be known. I had to defend myself on numerous occasions to set their minds at ease that I could always get on a plane and come straight home. But I was madly in love with this man who was different from anyone else I had ever met. It was more than stepping out of my comfort zone it was life changing but it was another part of the world I felt calling me.
I got on that plane four months after my return from Mexico to start a new life here in England with my new partner in crime, Mr P. All those plans I had made for my life after college went out the window. That is the beauty of life that one path may lead us one way and another might have a fork in the road for us to divert onto and bring us more happiness and joy than we ever thought possible. We just have to have courage to take a risk and take that fork in the road when it’s offered.
I gave up my world, my culture, my comfort zone but in return I now have two beautiful children and a lovely home to share with my one true love and soul mate. Money can’t buy that only adventure and fate so get out there, seek the world and break out of your comfort zone. You never know where a different zone might take you!
I hope your adventures in life, bring you joy and happiness. Life is too short to not experience so much of what the world has to offer. I am not saying that you can’t find your dreams and happiness right where you grew up. Through this post I only hope if the opportunity arises to do something outside your comfort zone whether it’s a new job, a new city, a new country or even a new style in your wardrobe that you will take that good risk and surprise yourself.